I am a faffer, procrastinator and all round dilly-dallyier. This must stop!
There seems to be a lot going on in my life right now (hence the blog not being updated much) and yet I am still spending time on stuff that is basically a waste of my time. I need to prioritise my time and what I do with it.
My main focus needs to be my diet. Making healthy food takes time and commitment and I need to do this more!
After that it needs to be exercise. I just got a new bike, which is awesome, and I need to make sure I go out on it when the weather is good. Yes I have to carry it down and up 2 flights of stairs. Bit this is essentially weight lifting and will help too!
Then my attention needs to turn to my arts and crafts. I really want to try and make this into a money earner. Even if it means that I go out less then it needs to happen.
What I definitely need to do is.spend less time wasting valuable time by going on twitbook when so much more time can be spent doing other things.
I will make the time to update my blog however, as this helps me process my thoughts. Yes, I know I could keep a journal or diary for the same end. But for some reason it is easier to do it on here. Plus it helps finds others that might be in a similar boat. It can also confirm/deny whether I’m going insane or not.
So right now I’m deleting Facebook, messenger and twitter from my phone. I don’t need them. They are just getting in the way!
Onwards to being more productive!
I would thought I would take this as another opportunity to review a beauty product, again it’s a little bit more on the unusual side. Well I think so, as when I personally think of beauty blogs it’s all make up, make up, make up (and a bit of hair styling thrown in for good measure).
I first found this product in Boots when I was aimlessly wandering around one of their stores (and filling up my basket with things I “need”) and wondered what on earth they were! Facial and Loofah are not 2 words I would ever think would come together on a product, let alone see it in actual circulation. I had a quick look at the packet and dismissed it as a silly product that was a waste of money and swiftly moved on to the nail polishes.
Then my regular Boots Advantage Card vouchers came through, which had a point builder voucher for the Botanics range. So idle curiosity got the better of me and I bought a packet, and my word am I glad I did!
The loofahs themselves are about the size of the average round cotton pad and you get 4 compressed loofahs in a packet. Once dampened with water it pops right up into a soft yet firm pad. These are perfect for giving your face a scrub if you have dry skin problem (like me) and you find exfoliating washes a little harsh, which some of them can be!
I was pleasantly surprised at how good these are, they are firm enough that you feel as though it’s doing good to your face, but supple enough to get around the more tricky parts of your face.
And after I read an article on the BBC website about Microbeads entering water supplies as they are too small to be filtered out. (
Who, What, Why: Why do people want to ban ‘microbeads’?) Then these are definitely a good buy! As you can use any normal face wash with the loofah and still get the exfoliation.
So in summary, I strongly suggest ditching the “microbead” face washes and going for these instead! They are £2.75 for a packet of 4, available in Boots stores. (couldn’t find them on the online store)
Here’s a list of all the other lovely people taking part in the Shop Your Stash blogging.
For the most part, I consider myself to be a modern woman. I pay my own bills, I have my own (rented) flat, I can look after myself and I can even spend time on my own with out any problems. But there is one area that I think I feel like I may have a bit of a more traditional/old fashioned outlook, and this is dating.
I’ve been single now for about 4 months, and whilst I’m not in any hurry to find a boyfriend and lose some of my new found independence, I figure that there is no harm in looking. So I have signed up to a couple of dating sites to have a look what is available “on the market” at the moment. I have messaged a few guys and received a few as well, but I can help but feel a little frustrated by it sometimes.
Of course I have had a few weird messages, it seems to be part of the experience unfortunately. But there are other creatures that I have come across that are hard to define.
I have come across a few guys that are like this: “thanks for your message, you seem really nice but… I’ve recently met someone so will be deleting my profile soon.” and you seen that a few weeks later, they are still logging in.
You get the ones where conversation is extremely painful, like getting blood out of a stone, then they wonder why you aren’t replying any more. My theory is, if you can’t have a decent conversation in text form, then verbal is going to be even worse, surely?!
Then you have the ones you actually manage to get on with, you go on a date, they tell you how they really like you, how they would love to meet up again. Then you hear nothing from, or you do, but not a lot. Then when you’ve moved on to talking or even going on dates with someone else, they seem put out.
This is the part where I’m more traditional I suppose. I don’t want to be the one making all the effort to contact a guy. My philosophy is, if he is interested, he will do all he can to make sure he stays in touch. Even if our schedules are clashing, with technology how it is at these days, there isn’t really much excuse for not keeping in touch. Even if it’s just the one message to explain that things have been hectic or what have you.
If I like a guy, I do tend to go into contact overload. I text a lot, even if I haven’t heard from them since the last one I sent (we are talking gap of a day rather than minutes). But I am starting to feel like this makes me seem desperate or something. Is it crazy for me to feel like I’m wanted.
I happen to think I’m a damn good catch, and once it’s obvious that we mutually appreciated each others company, I shouldn’t have to chase after men, it should be the other way around!
I saw this somewhere on the internet the other day, and it felt like it summed it up quite well for me.
Is this a bit of an old fashioned view point? I don’t know, maybe. But I know that I refuse to do the chasing any more. I am getting too long in the tooth to be wasting my time on men that make it feel like they aren’t bothered. Regardless of what they say. Actions speak louder than words.
Maybe I’m just being too sensitive to these things and I need to learn to chill out a lot more.
Those of us that are trying to lose weight are usually told to try and think of triggers that could be causing our weight gain so we know how to try and plan for when these things happen and stand up to it head on.
I have always thought that my biggest problem is that I eat when I’m bored. Today I have had massive proof of that being exactly the case.
Today I had a day off work, in the past this would end up in no ends of eating stuff I shouldn’t be. Snacking in front of the TV and not really having proper meals because I “can’t be bothered” to cook something.
However, today has been different. Today I have been doing my new addiction/hobby. Keeping my hands and mind busy on other things. I skipped breakfast and just had a mid morning hifi bar to tie me over as I woke up late. Then I had a proper lunch of cod, homemade potato wedges and veg. This is all I have eaten today. I haven’t felt the need to raid the cupboards or the fridge. I even have biscuits in my flat at the moment and I haven’t touched those either.
Tomorrow I go back to work and the normal routine and I just know that I will be wanting to munch all day.
Not only is this proof that I eat when I’m bored. It’s proof that my job is not what I should be doing as it’s not stimulating enough for me.
I am going to take lots of fruit etc with me in preparation to the snack monster attack. Let’s hope I can stick to that and don’t wander off to purchase something.
Does anyone else get the munchies when their bored? How do you combat it?
Recently, something has clicked with me. I seem to have become obsessed with a sort of new hobby. I have basically fallen back in love with decoupage, but this time in a big way. In fact, I have become a little bit crazy with it.
I dabbled in this last year and I even posted up on here about it. The set I bought was pretty good, and I did as few pieces from that set which lead me to covering a sewing box.
After a quiet afternoon in I joined a couple of Decoupage groups on Facebook and after seeing a lot of different posts by the other members it’s inspired me to try and create something of my own. I read quite a few of the other members were using wallpaper to do their projects, and thought this was an awesome idea. Especially as a lot of them said they just go into a DIY store and get free wallpaper samples as you quite often don’t need a lot of paper to do a project, and definitely not a whole roll of it.
Now this seems to have triggered something with me, whilst searching for things for the new project, I can’t get enough of collecting wall paper! I have now been to 4 different places to get wallpaper, I’m not even sure what I’m going to do with all of it!
I suppose I should explain what I had in mind for my first project. Well, after not being able to find a phone case I like, I decided to make my own! So I bought a cheap plain plastic hard case and set out to cover it in wallpaper. After a trying to cover the whole thing in wallpaper and not getting far. I decided to try some Decopatch paper I had left over for another project and cutting out a bit of wallpaper for a splash of colour. This is what I ended up with…
I have since cut out the holes for the camera on the back etc. It needs a bit of a touch up before I finish it completely, but I don’t think it’s bad for a first go at this kind of thing.
When I went “shopping” for wallpaper, it was initially to just find something for the phone case. But as you can see, I ended up with a lot more! Some I haven’t got anything planned for yet. But I have completed one project so far.
To add a bit of colour in my very beige lounge, I decided to create some canvases for the wall. Friends have been very complimentary about them and my Mum even wants me to do some for her!
So now I’m onto my next project, which is in a similar vein, as in I will be covering a canvas, but this time it’ll be going on my bedroom wall. I’ve spent many hours cutting out butterflies from wallpaper and I’m going to make them into a collage on a canvas to go on my wall.
The end result probably won’t look too different to what’s in the picture, but I’m going to keep rearranging the butterflies until I’m happy and then stick them down.
I like to think of myself as quite a creative person, and now I’ve started doing this, I have tons of different projects going on in my head now, I have collected more wallpaper, bought napkins, tissue paper and wrapping paper to use. I have bought some tester pots of chalky paint too so I can give some furniture a facelift. It is starting to take over my life! I was up until 1am cutting out the butterflies last weekend. Quite soon I have a feeling I could easily give up a social life for all the different projects I want to do.
My parents are even getting in on it, my Dad found something in a skip that looked too good to throw away and asked if I could do something with it.
This was a CD rack that was left behind after a local car boot sale, he decided it was too good to leave behind as it’s solid wood. Offered it to me and I gladly took it off his hands. He removed the CD holders from it, as I have other ideas of what I’d like to with it. I will post updates of all the different things I’m doing. But I am really loving my creative side coming back out in full, and it’s awesome that I have been able to finish projects for once. I am usually so good at starting things and not finishing them. At this rate, I can see everyone I know ending up with homemade gifts for Birthday’s and Christmas.
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Something I keep hearing, when it comes to dating and relationships, is that you project how you feel about yourself on to the person you end up dating. Or another way of putting it, you are only attracted to people who see you as you do or treat you the same way you treat yourself. Am I making sense?
I didn’t think this was true, thought I had my own control over things when it comes to men I’ve dated. But if I’m honest with myself. All my relationships and the few men I have dated, or been interested in, are to go by. Then I do not hold myself in very high regard.
Of course, every guy I have had any kind of feelings for or dated for a while (I have been engaged once) had something about their personality that I was attracted to. But I have come to realise, what they were like as a package, or some of the reasons I have given for breaking up with them, are the things I don’t like about myself.
Now I know that things are not black and white. There are all kinds of grey areas in between and many reasons why a relationship doesn’t work out. But off the top of my head I can think of a few examples of when this has happened:
The guy that never wanted to choose how we spent our time together which drove me crazy. But… I can be incredibly indecisive. So wouldn’t have a clue anyway.
The guy that saw my dieting as an inconvenience and so I didn’t feel supported. However, I constantly sabotage myself. How is that supporting my own efforts?
Those are only a couple of examples but on a general level I wonder. How am I going to meet someone who supports me if I don’t support myself.
Or find someone who has ambition and drive for their work when I feel so unmotivated with mine?
I do feel like if I’m going to start dating again all I am going to do is whinge. I need to, literally, sort my life out. Find who I am as a single woman and make some positive changes. I’ve already moved into a place to call home. Next step is getting back on the diet. Then the focus can shift to my career. The next time I go on a date, I want to be able to rave about the things I do. Talk with passion about things I love. Make it a no whinging zone. Well it’s something to aim for at least.
Fitness and exercise has never really been very high on my priorities. But I know that if i ever want to shift any weight diet alone is not going to cut it in the long term. So I have been trying to up my steps everyday, for starters at least. I have a built in pedometer on my phone to keep track of these. Now, I know the target we are all “meant” to aim for is 10,000 steps a day but I have a desk job which means I am on the phone for 7 hours a day, so it makes it hard to rank up those steps. I have set myself a target of 5,000 for now, to see how I get on. The results of the last week is below.
4 out of 7 days I have managed to go past my target, I’m pretty proud of myself. I just have to try and stick to it! I am trying to figure out what to do on days I might not be able to go out walking somewhere. I’m sorry, but I am going to be a fair weather walker!
On wet and windy days, I may do some weight and tone up exercising instead. I have been looking on the internet at different routines to follow. It might be a good way to stop me getting bored as well. I have tried the gym before, and I just could not get into it. I do still have the membership, I’m paid up til June, so I might go in a few times to give it a whirl, but that is a very big might.
I have said a lot of times that I am going to do exercise and get fit etc, but nothing has ever come of it. But my eating pattern is so messed up at the moment, I need something to stop me reaching for food when I’m not hungry. I know I am doing it because I am bored, and it’s not healthy!!
So I hope that I can stick with it and I start enjoying myself for this so I can finally start making big changes in my diet and health for the better. I got my 1.5 stone award for Slimming World in September, and haven’t got any since. This needs to change!!!